Divorce.

Well! This is the last class that we have for this class and the last time that I will be writing from here... maybe.

There are 6 stages of divorce

Emotional- not connected to each other
Legal-(of course the legally and lawfully)
Economic- spliting everything like the house or cars.
Coparental- still have to parent together
Community- dividing each other between friends and family
Psychic- Divorced but they are influenced by each other even though they are separated

However as divorce happens so and too often, the family will now be twice as hard as the marriage because of friends, family, and even children. 70% of people that are divorced said that they could or should save the marriage but they never did anything.

As we were discussing in class, doing something that causes a divorce is relationship suicide. As I have been married, I realized that marriage is something that is not easy, but what makes a great relationship is working through hard times and becoming great together.

Parenting

So this week's class was mind blowing for me. I loved all the information that I was able to obtain over parenting and the things that can make a great success to children growing up to become successful adults. I mean that is the point of parenting. The definition of parenting is to protect your children and prepare them to survive and thrive. 

The most important thing that really inspired me in the ways of parenting is showing that you love your child by holding them to a higher standard of living. I believe that a child can learn great responsibility and can control or understand the consequences of our actions. One way of action is plan in advance for the consequence if the child doing something wrong with your spouse. This way, if the child does something wrong, both parents know what to do and are able to not have any problems when it comes to the consequence of the child's action. Good or bad.

Also the most important part is sitting down with the child and telling them that consequence that the parents have talked about before talking to the child. For example. If the child is getting a new phone and might have a problem with text inapporiately or too late at night, the parents can talk to the child about the consequence of their actions. That way, the child knows what will happen if he brakes that rule however, it is essential that the parents live up to what they told the child. If they are letting them off and if it happens again.. or nothing ever happens, when the parents finally follow through the child says that it is unfair because he was never punished for that before now. The funny thing is is that the child is right! it isn't fair! He is now confused and upset with the parents. 

I know that we are all learning when it comes to having to parent a child. Heck, I don't even have kids yet! But this information happened in my home and I would have loved to learn a little bit more about the consequences of my actions or lack of to fully understand now that I am an adult and are dealing with the natural consequences of life.